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After the Mourning

After the Mourning
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When things finally calm down and we can interact, the time will come when you are together with a friend or relative who has recently lost a loved one.  It may be the time for words of comfort and encouragement. Or perhaps this is the time for less advice and more listening, with your heart. 

After the Mourning

It was a difficult time. The mourning was over and it was time to move on. Yet it was hard. Everything was changed now; nothing felt comfortable. What to do?  Where to go?

Friends and relatives who gathered around her had now returned to their lives and loved ones. They had left so much advice, so much confusion.  After so many years of contentment and reliability, she was having trouble putting one foot in front of the other.

One evening, a friend arrived bearing a basket.  “Oh no,” she thought, “I just cannot face another batch of homemade brownies or muffins that are supposed to mysteriously cheer me up.”

But no, the basket was filled with candles; new and used candles in every shape and size. Dozens of them. At her friend’s insistence, they set the candles out and started lighting them.  One . . . a dozen . . . twenty . . .  more. The whole room sparkled as their light grew brighter and deeper.

Suddenly she got it! No words were needed. She smiled at her friend over the candles’ warm glow; for she remembered the choice she had before, when things were different, she had now, and she would always have – To curse the darkness or light candles to lead the way.

Sometimes friends step in just in time.

P.S.

Loneliness also set in while we were sheltering in place.  There may be some adjusting required to get back in your groove, once you introduce people and activities back into your life. More likely, you’ll find a new groove.

[Show #05]

Filed Under: Advice and Encouragement, Family and Friendship Tagged With: friends, loneliness, mourning

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  1. Debra says

    May 30, 2021 at

    This was a lovely story. I loved the ideas of candles to light the way to grief healing. Thank you.

    Reply
    • Annette Petrick says

      May 30, 2021 at

      It works, Debra – added to a lot of caring and gentlrness.

      Reply
  2. Joan says

    May 30, 2021 at

    Annette
    This has been a hard time with close family members dying of covid and no traditional ways of comfort
    Snd the distance apart making it harder
    When we finally celebrate John’s life in October/ my brother in law died within 3 weeks February 17th I will bring a basket of candles
    Perhaps the same for my nieces father I. Law
    Our friend Harriet had to wait over a year before her husband could be buried at Annapolis naval academy with just a limited group of friends and family
    Nice message

    Reply
  3. Karen R. Sanderson says

    March 14, 2016 at

    I like this. I love the idea of a basket full of candles.

    Reply

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