Gifts

I Bought Gifts

Backstory

This story first aired in 2014. It brought more comments than any previous story. It was featured again in 2017 and again brought a storm of response. Seems I was not the only one with this experience. Feel free to write your comments, after listening to what happened when I gave gifts to the children.

I Bought Gifts

I bought gifts for some children who were coming to visit. The kids were 5 years old, 8 and 13. The gifts totally bombed out. The kids were disappointed with them.

I had so enjoyed picking them out and making sure they were age-appropriate. And they were rejected with hardly a parent-induced, murmured “thanks.”

Who went wrong? Them or me?

Was it too much to expect a polite response from kids this age, even if they were not thrilled with the gift? Or am I placing MY expectations on THEM?

I can remember receiving presents as a kid; some bummers and some keepers. I hope I was gracious in my acceptance of both kinds. But was I?

And if I gushed over some out-of-style or mundane gift, was I being hypocritical? Was it more honest to show without a doubt that the gift was unwelcome?

Do the parents have a responsibility to instill in their kids the social concepts of civility and appreciation? Or do I just shrug, chalk it up to my bad and give the kids money next time, so they can go and buy something they’d like.

One thing for sure; I won’t be choosing any more gifts for these kids. Not because I’m mad at them, just because I am now assured that I have no concept of their preferences and desires.

Too bad. I really enjoyed shopping for those gifts.

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Best Christmas Gift

Back Story

You probably start Christmas shopping in October, like my friend Susan. Her gifts are wrapped, labeled and stored long before most people. She is really good at selecting just the right present. Wouldn’t it feel good if something you choose for someone this year wound up being the best gift they ever had?

Best Christmas Gift

What’s the BEST Christmas gift you ever received? Think about it. What pops right into your mind? I’ll bet it’s not the most expensive gift you ever got. It’s probably the one most lovingly selected by someone who knows you very, very well and contributes regularly to your happiness.

Sometimes, a gift provides an unexpected pleasure. I remember receiving a green imitation leather shoulder bag from an aunt. It was full lady size, even though my age had not yet hit double digits.

To me, it was the symbol of being grown up. And obviously my aunt had RECOGNIZED how grown up I was, to give me such a sophisticated – and big – purse. I dragged half of my childhood treasures around with me in that purse, so everyone could see this recognition of my new, grown up stature in life.

I have to wonder whether my aunt ever had even an inkling of how important that gift was to me, or why. Probably not. I now wish I had told her about it, somewhere along the way.

Think about your favorite gift and what it symbolized for you. If you still can, call the person who gave it to you and tell them. What a delight it would be to hear from you with that kind of thanks. This is the season for it.

Enjoy the holidays and each other.

P.S. Books are always a welcome gift. Sometimes they open new doors, inspire or at very least, entertain. The Christmas book I wrote a couple of years ago is chuck full of Consider This stories from Christmases over the last 15 years. It can be purchased on Amazon. This link will take you right to it – Christmas Joy, Love, and Wonder by Annette Petrick

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Christmas Sermon

The young pastor was pacing. He was totally perplexed. Here it was Christmas Eve and he had no sermon for the midnight service. People would come to the church full of Christmas cheer. They would expect to be inspired and he lacked inspiration. He was so tired of the commercial aspects of Christmas that he feared the real meaning of the season was being lost forever.

He wandered by the life-size nativity scene outside the church and noticed a brightly wrapped gift package by the manger. Curious, he reached out and opened it. Inside he found a pair of tiny baby booties and a card. It read, “This is a birthday present to keep your baby feet warm. Happy Birthday, Jesus.” It was signed, Cheryl, age 4.

The pastor smiled. He could envision young parents teaching their child the true meaning of Christmas in a way that she could understand.

That night, he read the card and based his sermon on it. The card became the core of his sermon every Christmas Eve.

Fifty years later, two elderly parishioners smiled at each other as they listened to the story yet again. Cheryl’s parents had heard it every year. They both agreed that to have inspired this Christmas message over all of these years was the best Christmas gift they ever had.

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Regifting

Backstory

At one of our girls’ lunches, someone sheepishly admitted to regifting. That opened an avalanche of confessions from those who did indeed pass along to others something that had been gifted to them. Some justified their transgressions. A few told stories of getting caught in the act.

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Regifting – #122

Have you ever dabbled in regifting? You know – passing along a gift that someone has given to you. Oh, admit it. You receive a gift that’s just not something you would use or enjoy. Or that color just does not do you justice. But you know, for sure, that someone else would just love it. So you pass it along.

Now the trick is to regift with panache. There are some rules to follow, if you want to be a real success at regifting. These were passed along to me by some of the world’s greatest regifters. So here are the key tips to Christmas regifting:

Make sure the gift card TO YOU has been removed before you wrap the regift. It’s not a good idea to leave that in there.
Make sure the gift has not rusted while it sat there in the garage, particularly if it has been there for five years or more. That’s definitely not cool.
Make sure you are not passing the gift along to the person who gave it to you in the first place. Keep a list.
Okay, so regifting can be tricky. But when you’re planning to give fruitcake, know that the recipient will always think it us a regift.

So take heed and be sure to have fun this Christmas. We sure are.

P.S.

Is regifting tacky? Etiquette experts suggest that it is acceptable, as long as the item is nice, is in new, unused condition and is something you would have bought for the person if you were paying for it.

Our family plays a game on Christmas for which every prize is a flagrantly admitted white elephant or regift. It’s brought lots of laughter to our holiday and some pretty neat stuff.

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Best Mother’s Day Gift

Backstory – Best Mother’s Day Gift

I was at a loss to choose a gift for my mom for Mother’s Day. Like most mothers of adult children, she has everything. Yet she has meant so much to me, that I wanted to gift her with something befitting her status in my heart. Then a thought from childhood occurred to me. A gift I prepared that cost time rather than money. Hmm. Seemed that might be a good gift from a grown up too. Listen in and see what you think.

Consider This Show – Best Mother’s Day Gift

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Mother’s Day is the biggest greeting card holiday of the year. Adult children throughout the land spend precious time considering what card and what gift to give to the woman who gave them life.

Purchases will include nightgowns and sweaters and jewelry. Restaurants will be full of moms being celebrated by their families. Florists and card merchants’ cash registers will sing.

But as your mom ages, the Mother’s Day gift she may need from you, more than anything else, is the gift of your time. During quiet time together, she can recall all the moments that gave you both joy, as you were growing up. You can tell her how proud you are of the kind of mother she was. She can tell you what pride your choices in life have given her.

Figure out how you can give your mom the gift of your time. Plan a weekend away, just the two of you. Give her tickets to a play, with you as her companion.

Take her to a concert or a bingo or a wrestling match. Whatever she likes to …whether it’s one of YOUR favorite pastime or not.

Give her a gift certificate to a gym – and then go with her to exercise.

The THINGS you buy are appreciated, but the real value is the memories you give. It applies on Mother’s Day – and all year round.

P.S.

You can also post a kudo on Facebook or other social media to show you noticed. It all counts.

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Unexpected Gift

Backstory

How do you keep a friendship going, when you and the other person are far apart? Through communication. That might be a Facebook post, a hand-written letter or an occasional gift. I got to smiling over beloved objects in my home that were gifts from over the years, and this story was the result.

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Unexpected Gift – #650

Imagine a gift arriving in the mail. You open the packing box to find a gaily wrapped present. And it’s not even your birthday. It’s not Christmas. It’s just an ordinary day . . .or at least it was, until the gift arrived.

It came from a friend or a relative who was thinking of you. Someone found something that reminded them of you and sent it on. What an absolutely joy.

A friend once sent me a soft, plush fleece blanket. It was huge. It’s now been on my king size bed for years. Every time I cuddle up in it, I think of him and his family and smile.

My vanity has trinkets and jewelry from various friends. I finger them and recall our last laugh together .

There’s a little sign on my desk reminding me to “Take time to smell the roses.” My young grandson sent it. It had a hidden message. It said to me – He gets it!

Those cubes on my bookcase with cute sayings; someone sent each of them to entertain me. Every one is an object that speaks of love. None of them have much monetary value in the scheme of things. But oh, they have value to me.

A gift – for no reason at all. It’s really special. Besides receiving them,

you can also send them! A really good idea –to consider.

P.S.

Nothing says “I am thinking of you” like adding to someone’s collection with an unexpected gift. Whether they collect matchbook covers (now there’s a dwindling collectible), salt and pepper shakers, toy trains or antique farm toys, when you see one at a yard sale or auction, snatch that baby up and send it on. Make a friend’s day more joyful.

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