Who is on your guest list for your July 4 picnic? Relatives? Friends? Strangers? Do any of them have odd habits? In today’s cancel culture, it seems that any detour off the path of normalcy could get you wiped out. I started thinking about it, and this is what I came up with.
Friends with Quirks
We have some friends with funny quirks. They do things that irritate or with which we do not agree. They may not have the same political beliefs that we do. Sometimes we wonder if we should jettison these friends with their quirks.
Now understand that I am a big believer in throwing away people who are negative in your life. Don’t keep them around! They will only pull you down. But friends with quirks . . . that’s different.
As I was analyzing their worth, quirks and all, something else occurred to me. I have quirks too – habits that may drive them crazy; beliefs they may question. Do you realize that right now they may be discussing ME and the weird quirks I have? They may be deciding whether to jettison me.
Hmm. Maybe this is worth a second consideration. I love these folks, quirks and warts and all, and I hope they love me, imperfect as I am. It took us a long time to find each other and truly see into the soul of each other. Each of us knows the other will never be perfect.
We’d better treasure what we can, put up with the rest, and consider ourselves very fortunate to have such good friends who put up with us too, quirks and warts and all.
P.S. How generous are you in forgiving quirks? Would you ever call out a friend or relative about their odd habit? Would you appreciate their pointing to yours?