Backstory
Social contact elevates the human spirit. Without it, people withdraw and don’t do as well. It’s particularly difficult for the elderly. Yet social isolation was demanded of us during the pandemic. One friend spent 14 months alone in her apartment without seeing a single person at her door.
Aging itself is often responsible for some loss of social contact. Friends die! They don’t mean to leave; they just have no choice. One single friend said she deliberately helps friends out, hoping she will be offered help when she needs it.
Poverty of Loneliness
The poverty of loneliness. It’s often suffered by the elderly who live alone or may no longer get around easily. This may lead to a lack of human touch – no hugs or handshakes, no faces smiling back. One time, I saw this issue dramatically addressed, of all things, by a group of teenagers.
An improv group I worked in was invited to perform a skit for high school students. We were to introduce the kids to the kinds of public service they might undertake as they entered the adult world.
The key character in our skit was an old man who lived alone. He got a phone call daily to be sure he was OK. The person calling this day was abrupt and business like, more anxious to get the calls over with, than to chat.
Then she realized that this call was the only contact he had each day, with the outside world. He was very lonely. Her call had made his day brighter ad more promising.
The skit had the desired impact on the teens. Inspired, several volunteered to make such calls. The only problem was, there was no such service. We made it up, for the purpose of our skit.
But the idea had gathered so much traction that the teenagers wound up creating such a group. Young people who called elderly folks daily, just to say hello.
These kids made a difference because the improv players hit on such a great idea to address the poverty of loneliness.
P.S. So how do you make new friends when you’re old? The basic truth is – it’s up to you to reach out. If that gets you out of your comfort zone, that’s OK. It will be worth the effort, even if you have to try more than once. Like card games? Seek a card club. Don’t know that game? Learn it. Check out organizations and clubs. Volunteer at a thrift shop. Attend a senior center or volunteer at one. Think service and watch new social interaction blossom into friendship.
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Besides the wonderful idea to reach out to those who might be lonely, you’ve hit on an important piece of wisdom, Annette, in suggesting a lonely person look for a way to serve someone. Renowned psychologist Karl Meninger is was supposedly asked what action he would recommend if a person were to feel a nervous breakdown coming on: “Lock up your house, go across the railroad tracks, and find someone in need and do something for him.”
Service above self – Seems Rotary has the right idea.
Amen!!!💓💓🙏🏻
Important message
Not only for the elderly but fir those who have most loved ones because of covid or other illness
Many of us have large families but many do not
My yarn shop this Wednesday bringing in a young health Aid with her older companion who taught her to
Knit
They want a quiet time to look at yarn and needles
A dog ate one needle
It is fun when knitters gather to share hints
Many of my knitters who knit for selling articles range from those in the 9th grade to mid 80
And above
Bravo
Knitting can be a wonderful connector. I loved Debbie Macomber’s book “The Shop on Blossom Street” about four unlikely and wildly different women who found friendship and love through meeting each other in a knitting class.
Your shop provides knitters what they want – emotionally as well as commercially. No wonder it’s so popular.
Annette
Good morning and another wonderful story that applies to all of us. I can read the text but no arrow to hear your spoken word. I would rather hear your voice than read the story. No big deal but it seems the page itself every so often takes a new format. I know you’ll get those boys straightened out! You and Bill have a great Sunday and talk with you soon.