A long-time friendship is precious. It can also be fragile – sometimes when least expected. What happens next can be game-changing. That was the case here.
She Hurt My Feelings
I don’t think she meant it that way, but what my friend said really hurt my feelings. There might have been an inkling of truth to it, but it hurt to hear it out loud. I’m trying to decide what to do about it.
Should I get back at her by saying something that would hurt her feelings too? Shall I try to find an excuse and apologize to myself for her? Shall I stay mad, end the friendship, never speak to her again?
Or might I examine what she said, remembering that it is nothing but data. It is input given by another. I have every right to consider it, accept it, reject it, rework it; whatever I want. I find that giving myself two or three days greatly improves the quality of making this kind of important decision.
Well, it’s now three days later and I have made my decision. I have decided to accept the bit of truth in her statement. I accept it as data and will consider it along with other data. In the meantime, I acknowledge our deep and valuable friendship. I decided that getting mad would be a waste of time for us both.
She’s still my friend and always will be. That’s what counts most. I think I made the right decision.
During the trying times of the pandemic, families were stuck together. The rules kept changing along with the warnings. If you made any errors of judgment that need repentance, now’s the time to clear things up. Be kind.