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What do you do about things you don’t like? Do you speak up, feeling you have a right to have things the way you want them, or do you swallow your annoyance and put up with it? Debating the best approach one day, this story evolved.

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Learning About Someone – #611

I just found out something new about Bill. He does not like sand in his toes.

We’ve been together for eight years now and I didn’t know that.

Funny how you can be so close to someone, and not know something about them.

Not that sand in his toes is significant, but it got me to wondering what else I don’t know that he dislikes.

People you love are kind and polite. Sometimes they put up with things that drive them nuts rather than say something that might hurt you or distress you. We do the same in return.

That means we may be innocently doing things, day in and day out, that are an irritant. And we have no idea. Or we may be expecting a loved one to do something they just hate doing, but never tell us that.

One of my favorite old TV shows once had a skit that started with a man accepting his brother’s goldfish in a bowl. That was followed by a whole series of comedic mishaps and the final punchline was, “It’s really about your not wanting the goldfish, isn’t it?”

So what should we do? Go out and let everyone know what they do that bothers us? Demand that they stop doing what is annoying to us? Put up with it until it explodes, like the goldfish incident?

I’m going to give that a lot of thought. In the meantime, when we get to the beach, I sure am not going to insist that Bill take his shoes off!

P.S.

The next time you want to get over an annoyance, consider using the 4-step approach that Toni Bernhard suggests in her book, How to Wake Up:

Recognize the annoyance
Label it
Investigate it
Let it be or take action to change the situation.

[Show #611]

Backstory – Those Niggling Things

Hands clenched into fists, I could feel my blood pressure rising. He had done it again. Or maybe he had forgotten it again. Whatever it was, it really ticked me off. Then I remembered that I had a choice. I could get mad again, or find a better way. This is what I taught myself. Hope it helps you think of a new way better way too.

Consider This Show – Those Niggling Things

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I read this heart quote of the day on the HeartSpoken.com website. “Be master of your petty annoyances and conserve your energies for the big worthwhile things. It isn’t the mountain ahead that wears you out, it’s the grain of sand in your shoe.” Author, is Robert Service.

Good old Bob had such a heart spoken worthy sentiment. Think about the last half dozen things that really ticked you off. I’ll bet most of them were silly, insignificant things. Yet they can take away so much of our energy trying to make them change. From putting down the toilet seat, to slamming the car door, to feeding the dog, to remembering where you put the keys.

Whether these annoyances are caused by others in your life or by yourself, they sure can take up space in your heart and mind.

Well, there’s another side to this story. You have a choice. You can allow the niggling behavior to get to your or not. How important is it in the big picture? Will it still be important a year from now? Would it be a show of love for you to do it instead of the person you expect to do it?

React differently next time you are annoyed. Decide in what category of importance it belongs. Move it over to a place where you can have more peace and give yourself better quality time to address the things that really matter.

[Show #520]