romance

Believe in Love

Backstory

Have you been in love? How do you explain the feelings engendered by the very nearness of your beloved? What mixture of internal chemistry creates those flashes of ecstasy? Those were the questions pondered by this newly smitten, curious but confused scientist.

Believe in Love – #418

I believe in love, always have. I met someone several years ago who had never been in love. Oh, he loved – his nieces and nephews, his parents, and good friends. But he never felt the passion of having someone in his life who mean more to him than life itself.

And then it happened. He found her and they became soulmates. At last, he knew what it was to be in love.

He was a scientist. As he experienced these new feelings, he insisted on understanding what created them. What made him light up when she walked into the room? Why were all standards of beauty now set by her?

His true contentment came when he stopped trying to understand why and allow the feeling to just wash over him, to consume him, to be a part of his very being. He’s a changed man, now that he’s found and accepted love.

I guess I’m glad that I’m not a scientist. I don’t need to understand what makes it feel so good to be in love.

I believe in the sun, even if it isn’t shining, I believe in God even when He is silent, I believe in love even when I’m alone. And those beliefs bring me joy and contentment. I hope they do the same for you.

P.S.

It’s a pleasure to report that twelve years into his love affair, the scientist remains smitten with the woman of his dreams, who is now his wife. Happy Valentine’s Day.

[Show #418]

Feeling Love

Backstory

An acquaintance was bemoaning that she was starting the new year without a romantic love. She felt sad about it. So we started talking about the love that she DID have, rather than the one she lacked. What a revelation. She found she was surrounded with a love she had not recognized. That led to this week’s story.

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Feeling Love – #641

We did a show a few months ago on love as seen through the eyes of children. Eight year olds gave their version of how you can SEE love. It showed that love can indeed be observed and identified.

Love is something extraordinary that happens to ordinary people. And when it does, it absolutely transforms. It turns the mundane into delight. It causes smiles, laughter, even giddiness.

Love is exemplified by being kind, and thoughtful. Doing something special is just natural when you love someone. You WANT to go the extra mile and make things better for them.

It is not limited to an age or a style or a type. Romantic love may be the kind that is most celebrated but the love within families is just as strong. And in this age of extended families and non-traditional families, love can extend in endless directions.

Consider yourself fortunate and be grateful if you have love in your life. Look for love, enjoy it, nurture it, revel in it.

It’s that something special that turns the ordinary into the extraordinary and it’s amazing how you find it in the most unexpected places.

P.S.

An elderly friend found love at the Moose Lodge. With few friends of her age left, she became a groupie with the young waitresses. They chat when she has lunch there. She brings them little craft gifts she makes. You can just feel the love and mutual respect being conveyed across the counter. Yep, the most unexpected place. Step up and get yours.

[Show #641]

What Are You Waiting For?

Backstory

It didn’t happen just like that. There was a lot leading up to it. Joan had been in the presence of my fiancé and me for years – on vacations, on outings and at home. She was a careful observer. Now, it turns out, she was about to become a tentative adviser as well.

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What Are You Waiting For? – #639

What are you waiting for? That’s what Joan asked me. She had sat me down and said we had to have a serious talk. Bill and I had been engaged for some eight years. When I accepted his engagement ring, we both considered ourselves committed, one to the other. And that was that.

But Joan, who had been married for decades, pointed out that there is a difference.

She pointed out that my fiancé had never been married. She believed he would thrive in the status of being husband to a wife he loved. She wisely pointed out that we were not getting any younger. But I just saw no need for a big event and a lot of hoopla and spending money and bothering people to come together to celebrate. At our age, it seemed anti-climactic.

That’s when she took my hand and gave me her best advice. She said, “You are talking about the wedding. I am talking about being married. It’s two very different things.”

She pointed out that every day that passed was a day that we were not enjoying the definitive commitment, the ultimate allegiance. She said we owed it to each other to experience that. She strongly advised that I allow Bill to put the other ring on it.

I took to heart, everything she said. And decided she was right.

P.S.

Joan had said that seeing Bill happily married was on her bucket list – something she wanted to see happen before her time was up. She had known him for some 30 years. Long before I was on the scene. She was so pleased to check that off her bucket list. Another item on the list was a trip to Tuscany. She marked that one off too. She died in her sleep, the day after her return.

[Show #639]

Love, One Day At a Time

Backstory – Love, One Day At a Time

A gentleman new to romance was concerned about what happens when the bloom is off the rose. He never experienced love before and was afraid it was something that could fade away. His concern is what’s behind this story.

Consider This Show – Keeping Love Alive

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Their paths were very different. He had been a bachelor all his life; she had multiple loves and marriages. They had come together as mature adults and fallen hopelessly in love.

They were enjoying every minute of their time together. And yet, in the deepest, darkest reaches of his soul, he wondered if love would stay alive. Would they still feel this way in five years? Ten years? What could he do to guarantee the heady feeling he got, every time she came into his view?

Having never had this experience before, he worried about it. He saw friends fall in and out of love. What if this love disappeared too? That would be devastating.

Then one day, it occurred to him. Just as life is only guaranteed, one day at a time,

So it is with love. The choice we have is never to experience it, because it might one day fade or grab hold and accept every morsel of joy it offers, one day at a time.

As he stokes her silver hair and enjoys her smile one more time, he knows he made the right decision. Thousands of days, he has known this joy, this love. One day at a time. Put them all together, and you have a lifetime. That’s how it works.

[Show #373]